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Just as many will raise a glass of bubbly on New Year’s Eve and toast to a good year had and hope for a good following year, many are also making New Year’s resolutions. The problem with resolutions is they’re like what Mary Poppins said in the movie of the same name — “They’re pie crust promises. Easily made, easily broken.”
Let’s face it. Resolutions are more wishful thinking than anything else. We do it at the beginning of the year, feeling like this will be a fresh new start and what better time than January 1st. There’s hope in the air that whatever you felt didn’t go well this last year will now be fixed in the coming year if only we put more effort in.
I hate to see you set yourself up for a failure one more time. Unless you make some change in how you go about making that resolution a reality, you’ll be saying the same thing again come December 31 of next year.
What do you think are the top ten resolutions people make at the beginning of any year? (Interestingly, these don’t change from year to year.)
A study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology found that while those who had made resolutions had higher rates of success than nonresolvers (which is kind of obvious since these guys weren’t even trying), only 46% of those resolvers had maintained whatever changes they had made. That means more than half of the people who had made New Year’s resolutions failed. Now you know why the top ten list never changes from year to year.
Then you must be asking yourself if there is any hope. Yes there is!
All of our actions and behaviors are based on decisions we make. Look at the top ten list again and tell me if you see any of those resolutions that don’t require a decision. If you want to eat healthier, you have to decide what it is you’re going to eat. If you want to lose weight, you have to decide how you’re going to make that happen (which, coincidently, involves two resolutions: eat healthier and exercise more).
If you had been making good decisions all during the year, you wouldn’t have to resolve to make changes for the coming year.
The Z-Pattern of Decision-Making is based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®). The MBTI® identifies a person’s personality type, strengths, and preferences. If you are familiar with the MBTI® and know your type, you’ve got a leg up. If you don’t know your type, take my FREE personality quiz. Maybe even watch my video to learn more about type. Also, I discuss the Z-Pattern in great depth in my latest book, Intuitive Living.
The Z-Pattern is a 4-step approach to making that resolution a reality.
Let’s take one of the resolutions from the list and show how this Z-Pattern would work. I’ll choose the first one: resolve to eat healthier this coming year. For this example, I’ll just give three thoughts per step. But understand that there is much more you could probably consider when you have the opportunity to use the Z-Pattern.
You say you want to eat healthier this year. That means that every time you have an eating opportunity, you need to stop and consider:
If I were having to make the decision, after weighing all of the above, I would choose to eat healthier and reap the health rewards (and maybe even the accolades of family and friends).
However, in the end, it isn’t my decision to make for you. That is the beauty of the Z-Pattern of living. You’re in control. You don’t need to be following someone’s rules of living when you can make them yourself in a way that is comfortable for your personality type and your life. Your rules. Your way.
In order to make those resolutions a reality, you can’t live on auto-pilot. Each of your actions requires a decision. There will come a time that living healthier becomes a part of you. For example, your dentist has told you to floss every night. As you stand at the bathroom counter ready to pick up your toothbrush, you have to make a decision about flossing that night. Once you decide to do it the first night, then the second, the third, and so on, you’ll actually miss the cleaner feel in your mouth. At some point, you no longer have to consciously make the decision. Done! The behavior is a part of you.
The same thing will be true for all decisions you make. Trust me!
Happy New Year!